tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.comments2024-02-09T14:26:00.025-05:00Pure NessVanessahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comBlogger173125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-17626804365883966482013-07-30T10:49:19.803-04:002013-07-30T10:49:19.803-04:00Thanks so much, Brittany. I'm definitely going...Thanks so much, Brittany. I'm definitely going to remember that when I need a chance to share. <br />I'm not sure how much is survivor's guilt exactly for me, but I do think it's tied into all the previous losses with conflicting feelings about "why this one? why did I lose all the other ones?" It's just so bewildering carrying this guy when I lost so many. Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-46107811438304782542013-07-30T08:46:58.588-04:002013-07-30T08:46:58.588-04:00I just wanted you to know that you are absolutely ...I just wanted you to know that you are absolutely not alone! I went through HORRIBLE depression with my first pregnancy. Really, really bad. And I felt the same way you do -- I should have been happy and grateful (and I was!) but I just couldn't seem to get it all out there. <br /><br />Pregnancy after infertility I think it incredibly hard. I called it survivors guilt. I know you know it gets better, and I know you are aware of what is happening, but please just don't feel like you're alone (I hope you don't!) <br /><br />And while we only occasionally talk on twitter, please know that if you need an ear from somebody who has been through it, that I'm always available to chat! <br /><br />Hang in there, lady! I get it! <br /><br />Brittany (@bohotransplant)Brittanyhttp://www.bohemiantransplant.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-31040647448442414362013-07-29T10:49:48.952-04:002013-07-29T10:49:48.952-04:00Thank, Audrey. I am a bit wary of the silent dirty...Thank, Audrey. I am a bit wary of the silent dirty looks, so I appreciate the support.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-36697026081221862982013-07-29T09:48:59.527-04:002013-07-29T09:48:59.527-04:00No more putting benchmarks on what you should and ...No more putting benchmarks on what you should and shouldn't feel. Breathe through the moments, no matter how you feel. We support you.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09491215798106401557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-80639755601555447452013-06-09T08:35:11.101-04:002013-06-09T08:35:11.101-04:00It's truly very complicated in this busy life ...It's truly very complicated in this busy life to listen news on TV, therefore I only use web for that purpose, and get the most recent news.<br /><br />my web-site - <a href="http://vakantiehuisjefrankrijk.webs.com" rel="nofollow">vakantieparken in frankrijk</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-7098594154754142952013-06-08T22:05:17.666-04:002013-06-08T22:05:17.666-04:00I rarely comment, but i did some searching and wou...I rarely comment, but i did some searching and wound up here "Words for Mother's Day".<br />And I actually do have a couple of questions for you if it's allright. Is it only me or does it look like a few of these remarks appear like they are left by brain dead people? :-P And, if you are posting on other online sites, I'd like to follow anything new <br />you have to post. Could you list of the complete urls of all your shared sites like your twitter feed, Facebook page or linkedin profile?<br /><br /><br />My web blog: luxe vakantiehuis frankrijk huren (<a href="http://grotevakantiehuizen.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow"></a>)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-91174524637780543592013-05-01T09:21:59.453-04:002013-05-01T09:21:59.453-04:00Thank you very much, Kristal!Thank you very much, Kristal!Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-87443391482150974192013-05-01T01:19:27.045-04:002013-05-01T01:19:27.045-04:00So so so happy to hear this update. Continuing to ...So so so happy to hear this update. Continuing to pray for you!Kristalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13844262891800455616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-60715783501927928192013-03-28T20:50:51.790-04:002013-03-28T20:50:51.790-04:00Thank you, Jamie! This has been a very rough day. ...Thank you, Jamie! This has been a very rough day. I can certainly use those prayers.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-14062342981314074672013-03-28T09:44:51.483-04:002013-03-28T09:44:51.483-04:00Praying!!!!Praying!!!!Jamie @ *that* momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16025082430340823660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-61494411552760167922013-03-26T19:01:23.802-04:002013-03-26T19:01:23.802-04:00Thank you so much for your support, my friends. Di...Thank you so much for your support, my friends. Did my third and last beta yesterday, and it was 883. :) So now I have to try and ride that for a while. Next Thursday, at 6wks, we'll do an ultrasound. Hopefully, I won't go completely crazy before then, and hopefully it will continue to show good news.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-91229992076604325062013-03-24T23:49:18.009-04:002013-03-24T23:49:18.009-04:00Vanessa, you CAN handle this. I know you can. An...Vanessa, you CAN handle this. I know you can. And I'm here, many miles and hours away, holding onto hope for you. And congratulations. It's exciting, even though it's terrifying too. Waiting with bated breath for the next bit of news, and sending love and strength your way.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11088514791544902240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-27275173086074071832013-03-24T22:40:54.577-04:002013-03-24T22:40:54.577-04:00Praying, hoping, and believing for you, friend. &l...Praying, hoping, and believing for you, friend. <3Kristalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13844262891800455616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-73387500706819741462013-03-23T20:55:02.939-04:002013-03-23T20:55:02.939-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-25554985065639743692013-03-23T19:34:08.717-04:002013-03-23T19:34:08.717-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-33955799654205519122013-03-14T22:49:39.679-04:002013-03-14T22:49:39.679-04:00You're definitely not alone. Although, I know ...You're definitely not alone. Although, I know how much it can feel like that at times. There's this idea that there is a generation of screwed up people because they weren't spanked, and especially in Christian circles it's often believed that if you aren't spanking, you aren't doing it "right," and your child will be spoiled. I don't believe any of that and most non-anecdotal evidence seems to back me up. <br />I've seen other gentle Christian parents online, but finding them in real life has been far more challenging. I'm happy to share ideas, sources, and frustrations any time you need anything.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-37212372646123143462013-03-14T22:39:18.160-04:002013-03-14T22:39:18.160-04:00Thank you for sharing this. We too are not spankin...Thank you for sharing this. We too are not spanking but the hand swatting has been a challenge. I was 110% against it before my child hit 2. And he started hitting me multiple times a day. And just like you mentioned once we tried swatting his hand it made things worse. He wasn't hitting himself but he started with more intention and more force hitting ME. Not Daddy. Just me. So if Hubs would swat his hand he would come over and then hit me. So we have since thrown that out completely. I'm glad I'm not alone. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-24752599881709102992013-03-12T08:41:08.973-04:002013-03-12T08:41:08.973-04:00Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. It c...Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. It can be a hard instinct to overcome.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-22027449350598349332013-03-10T21:55:10.476-04:002013-03-10T21:55:10.476-04:00Thank you so much for sharing this. Great perspect...Thank you so much for sharing this. Great perspective. We don't spank either, but I'll also admit that in the heat of the moment, I have smacked Isaac. :( Which in turn has led to me apologizing and him graciously accepting. I love/hate all the imperfections parenting pulls out of me. Such a lesson in grace and humility. Kristalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13844262891800455616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-57998637572387169932013-02-28T21:42:27.016-05:002013-02-28T21:42:27.016-05:00I certainly hope this won't go on for too long...I certainly hope this won't go on for too long, but who's knows what will happen now. I certainly don't have this all figured out like I thought. <br />While I have much sympathy for those who go through months or years of BFNs I definitely don't have any desire to experience that side of this journey. This side has been quite hard enough. What a rough ride it must have been to go through both!<br />I checked your blog and saw that you are pregnant again - Congratulations! I hope that all continues to go well!Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-63179974918288453762013-02-28T13:01:53.834-05:002013-02-28T13:01:53.834-05:00Oh boy do I ever get it! When I was TTC#2 the lon...Oh boy do I ever get it! When I was TTC#2 the longest it took to get pregnant was 3 cycles. I often wondered if it was worse to continually miscarry or never get the BFP to start with. Well when TTC#3 started, I quickly learned that not getting a BFP robbed me of any hope of a baby. It was heartbreaking to go through loss after loss but at least there was the a hill or two on the roller coaster. When that ride was uneventful month after month, I longed for a faint pink line to taunt me. So, I totally get it. Huge hugs!Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16721275443454633435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-47829131074403461952013-02-27T22:23:18.081-05:002013-02-27T22:23:18.081-05:00Thanks as always, Molly. <3Thanks as always, Molly. <3Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-71562623569721245372013-02-27T17:01:23.890-05:002013-02-27T17:01:23.890-05:00I'm sorry. Sending love and strength...I'm sorry. Sending love and strength...M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11088514791544902240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-14500438598666311542013-02-27T13:42:29.120-05:002013-02-27T13:42:29.120-05:00Thanks, Audrey. I'm really not feeling it toda...Thanks, Audrey. I'm really not feeling it today. Certainly could use a chat.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14768473078536830905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4980515926340769054.post-20638573928669204412013-02-27T08:49:46.334-05:002013-02-27T08:49:46.334-05:00Girl, I get it. You are strong even when you don&#...Girl, I get it. You are strong even when you don't feel strong.<br /><br />Love you and here's to hoping we get a chance to chat tonight. <3Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09491215798106401557noreply@blogger.com