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Friday, May 11, 2012

Words for Mother's Day

I know that many churches aren't good at dealing with infertiles in their midst, and Mother's Day is especially hard. I was impressed and happy to read this in the this weeks's newsletter that our pastor sends out:

To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you 
To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you 
To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you 
To those who experienced loss this year through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you 
To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is. 
To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you 
To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you 
To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you 
To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you 
To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience
To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst 
To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you 
And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you 
This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you. We honour you. We love you.

From me to all my lovely friends - may this Mother's Day treat you kindly, no matter where you find yourselves on this list.

A quick web search leads me to Amy at "The Messy Middle". I'm not entirely certain, but it does seem that she actually wrote this piece. Thank you, Amy, for your thoughts and heart.


  1. That's amazing. Amazing words for Mother's Day.

  2. I just stumbled across your blog (thanks to twitter) and read this. I'm not very religious, nor have I very strong feelings about Mother's day (yet?), this immediately struck and I'm writing this with tears in my eyes. Thank you for sharing.

  3. It seemed to good not to pass on. The author really knew how to capture it all, eh?

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